You are helping your child become independent by teaching them how to solve problems on their own.

Being proactive in your decision-making as a parent means thinking about what you will do before you do it; you shouldn’t always react impulsively. Reactions are self-centered; they reflect how you feel in the moment, and when we are angry, it’s usually our flesh that reacts. Being patient with your reply and responding with wisdom allows you to assess the situation correctly. This can teach your child to have self-control and how to be resilient during adversity.

Here are a few tips on how you can be proactive in your parenting when making decisions:

• First, take a step back and take a deep breath.
• If your child is not calling you, then let them work it out themselves.
• Don’t assume anything when you walk into the middle of a situation.
• Be a detective and investigate all that you can before you make a judgment call or decision.
• Be mentally prepared on how you will handle any situation before it arises.
• Pray daily for godly wisdom and discernment.
• Ask for forgiveness if you have reacted poorly.
• Make sure your children know the consequences of bad behavior ahead of time.
• Don’t make a decision when you are already angry at something.
• Don’t speak critically but speak with wisdom in the given situation.

Lana Leigh Wilkens is the author of the book Knee-Jerk Mom: Freedom from Worry, Fear, & Regret, which discusses the different ways on how to get your family on the same page and navigate through life without yelling or hurting our loved ones!

Bible Verse Referenced:

• 2 Corinthians 1

Book Referenced

• Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kid, by Scott Turansky

Get a cup of coffee, take about ten minutes to recharge your batteries, and equip your mind so you can raise warriors for Christ that will stand firm in the face of evil! Occasionally, we will be giving away free books – so stay tuned! My team and I are here to serve you all for the glory of our Lord!