Discipline Techniques

There are 20 questions in this assessment. Each question has four possible answers. The result will be immediately available once you have answered all of the questions. You will also see a link to all 4 assessments for you to take.

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1. Does your child often offer excuses to get out of trouble?

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2. Do you often listen to excuses given by your child before you decide to reprimand him/her?

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3. Do you warn your child of the consequences if they choose to disobey?

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4. How often do you have to call your child to come to you before they obey your call?

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5. Does your child look at you when you are speaking to them?

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6. Does your child obey the first time they are given a command?

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7. How many chances do you give your child before you enforce consequences for disobeying?

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8. Does your child obey their teachers or other authoritative adults?

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9. Do you stand firm in doling out disciplinary consequences?

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10. Do you give in to your child's request to be released from disciplinary consequences?

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11. At what age did you start disciplining your child?

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12. How often have you told your child that when they don't obey you, they also disobey God?

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13. Have you explained the difference between a request and a command to your child?

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14. Do you support your spouse's decision once they have issued a disciplinary consequence?

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15. Do you sometimes let your child off the hook after your spouse or another authoritative adult has issued a disciplinary consequence?

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16. Do you bribe your child so that they will obey?

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17. Do you let your child play with other children who are often disobedient?

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18. How often does your child talk back to you?

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19. When your child is being disruptive in a public place, do you leave after they have been given a warning but they still continue to be disruptive?

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20. How many disciplining books have you read?

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Exit

Go over the questions and see which questions you answered that are labeled C or D. Those are the questions where growth is needed, or action should be taken. Your goal is to become stronger in the weak areas so that you can confidently re-answer the questions next time, choosing either A or B.

Just as the Holy Spirit continually transforms us, the Holy Spirit also consistently transforms our children. We may have to say the same thing a hundred times, and when we get exasperated, remember that adults also struggle to do what they know is right. The Lord is patient and loving and extends his grace toward his children, and we should do the same. With that being said, we need to administer discipline when needed, and children need to learn to obey. When children are not disciplined properly, it can lead to pride instead of humility and unbelief instead of faith. They seek their glory instead of God’s glory, rely on their power instead of his power, covet their goodness instead of his goodness, and demonstrate actions that are self-centered instead of self-sacrificial.

The ultimate goal of discipline should always be for our children to learn self-control, self-discipline, and self-motivation. It is important to recognize that discipline never means physical punishment. Discipline is an act of love from the Lord to us and from us to our children. Proverbs 3:11-12 says: “My son, do not despise the LORD’S discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”

For more indepth information on obedience through godly discipline, see chapter 4 in Raising Kids to Follow Christ: Instilling a Lifelong Trust in God.

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