“The number one factor or force that contributes to influence is time by quite a large margin. Whoever spends the most time with your child is going to have the most influence.” – Israel Wayne.
Israel and Brook Wayne are both homeschool graduates and homeschooling parents. They have eleven children ranging in age from 24 to 3. They are the founders of Family Renewal and co-writers of Pitchin’ a Fit: Overcoming Angry and Stressed-Out Parenting.
During this episode, Israel and Brook share invaluable insights on influencing your child’s life, managing parental anger, and instilling a biblical worldview. Israel provides practical tips on reclaiming time and managing media, while Brook offers heartwarming strategies to replace parental anger with positive reinforcement.
Key Themes:
- Building influence through time: Israel kicks off the conversation by highlighting the importance of being the primary influence in your child’s life. Time spent together is paramount. The data revealing that the average mother spends only an hour a day with her children—and fathers, a mere 29 minutes—serves as a wake-up call. Israel passionately advocates reclaiming time from other influences, like school and media, to foster stronger parental bonds.
- Positive affirmation vs. anger: Brook shares personal stories about the pitfalls of using anger as a tool for parenting. Through her journey, she learns that anger does not produce the righteousness of God. Instead, she emphasizes the power of love, gentleness, and positive affirmation to guide kids towards godliness.
- Managing media and screen time: With technology being a double-edged sword, Israel focuses on teaching children to be producers rather than passive consumers of media. Technology should be used to add value and contribute positively to the world, not just as a source of amusement.
- Cultivating a biblical worldview: A robust biblical worldview is likened to wearing clear, scripture-tinted glasses. Israel emphasizes the need for parents to be proactive in shaping their children’s perspectives through daily interactions and teaching based on God’s Word.
“For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” – Brook Wayne.
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